Be a Good Listener

People these days tend to forget that we have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

Like seriously,

When a person speaks, he is more likely to be interrupted by others who are trying to outsmart him. Most likely those who are trying to prove their superiority over the person who is speaking. This is the worst thing you can do. 

The tendency of listening to others is decreasing. I dont blame it on generation. Nobody is willing to listen. Everyone wants to teach. Whenever you attend a college lecture students are sleeping, others are busy on whatsapp, daydreaming, playing footsie and whatnot. Only a few sincere students are willing to listen (of course it depends on the teacher's way of teaching). 

Sometimes Women just want someone to whom they can tell everything. Just a person who would listen. Who would listen carefully to their problems, give a shoulder to lean on without any silly solutions. Such person is rare to find. Either people have no time to listen or they are busy talking.

 Listening is the key portion of communication. It tells us more about the person. It makes us humble, kind enough to value others opinion. Yes, there may be conflicts but a gentleman(and a woman) would allow others to put their point forward without interrupting. Only a person with lack of confidence, insecure, afraid to lose his value would not let others speak.

Being a good listener is the quality everyone must possess. It helps us in all walks of life. Teaches us new things. When we are not talking, we also utilize other senses we have, we observe the world more closely with our eyes, see things that would have gone unnoticed. Listen to most peculiar sounds carefully. We also take time to think and analyze the situation.

So what are you willing to be called, a blabbering snob or beautiful person.

Hope you know why we have two ears and one mouth now ;P

 

LOVE ME LIKE YOU DO

(THIS STORY IS NOT REAL. PURE IMAGINATION)

We all heaved a sigh of relief when Professor Shinde finally took his retirement from college. Nobody liked him. Although his knowledge was incomparable, his strictness and love for discipline made everyone uncomfortable. Even the toppers hesitated to ask him any doubts because if someone dared to ask him a silly question he would only shake his head or “cough” in reply. He always said to us being post graduate students he expects us to know everything. But  we all expected that whoever replaced him would be better. Our group was the coolest gang in the college. 

And the next day in class we were gossiping as usual and suddenly a tall, dark and handsome guy entered. He couldn’t go unnoticed. All of us were staring him. There was a hullabaloo in the entire class.

“New guy in the middle of the sem?” 

“Maybe he’s someone’s bro.”

With confidence, patience and his hands folded, he stood there for entire two minutes. Finally our discussion came to an end without any conclusion and we kept silent.

“So it seems that students these days have no manners. Anyways, Good morning everyone, I’m Prakash Rao. Hereafter I will be teaching you Physics. I would like to know your names. Let’s start from here.” He said pointing towards Neha who was sitting on first bench.

The next 30 minutes passed effortlessly. The bell rang. And we started talking again.

“OMG he’s soooo young. Can’t believe he’s our teacher”

“ And handsome too.”

While everyone was busy praising him, Neha didn’t speak a word. He appeared strangely familiar to her although she was sure they had never met before.

As days passed,we all became comfortable with Prakash sir. In practicals he would come running to us to solve our doubts. He made sure every student understood what he was teaching. 

Somehow one thing caught everyone's eye. We came to a realization that Rao sir talked a lot with Neha as compared to others. He would ask her more questions and she would answer. While teaching he would look at her every now and then reading her face.He would linger around her everytime. We had even started teasing her by his name. Neha was irritated by all this. She started avoiding him. The most sincere girl had started missing his lectures. Even if she would attend the lecture she would sit at the last bench just staring at the blackboard.

The other day she looked worried,rather upset. We asked her if anything was wrong. She said in a low voice

"Yesterday I went to the library. He was there. I tried to avoid him.But he asked me if I was free today and he would like to have a coffee with me.I really don't know what to do" 

We teased her even more till she blushed. Oh come on Neha, its just a coffee, you must go. Maybe he likes you. There's nothing wrong in a cuppa coffee. Call him now, we handed over her cellphone. She called him, we giggled and abandoned her pretending she was going to speak something very private. Someone even said best luck. 

We were curious to know what happened so we asked Neha the next day. 

"It was really nice meeting him. He is very decent man."

Things became normal after one cup of coffee. She was now attending her lectures regularly. She had stopped avoiding him. Perhaps they were meeting on weekends.

One day we were sitting in the canteen. She looked confused. We asked her if there was some problem. 

"I don't know what to do. He asked me If I could be his friend. His Family lives at Assam. He has a wife and a daughter. He said he likes me and just wanted to be my friend as he feels lonely here."

There was a lot of debate after she said this. But we finally agreed to one thing. Yes we all need a emotional support when we are alone. He only asked you to be a friend. He needs you Neha, and he is a good man. You can be friends. Friendship never killed someone. She followed our advice.

She looked happier than ever. Her life was now full of joy. She would talk to him a lot discuss every little problem she had right from the colour of her nailpolish to choosing the right career path, he had solution to every problem she had and would never mind her silly talks. She was a good friend too. An understanding and caring girl every man aspires. Their friendship had flourished.A true friendship without a trace of lust.

One day he asked her out for dinner. It was no more awkward as they were now good friends. But somehow she felt this dinner was going to be special. After the dinner when they were about to leave he said,

"I don't know how to say this to you, being a married man. I really love you Neha. I love you a lot. I got married when I was 21. Since then there has been only a burden of responsibilities and not love. My wife has a very small world she is completely satisfied when I send her my monthly salary. There is no compassion in my life. I feel neglected. But when I met you, everything changed. I became more passionate in my life. I love you Neha and I know you will never love me back. And it is okay if you don't. Just let me love you because you give me strength to survive." 

She came back to hostel with mixed feelings.It was a big shock for us when we came to know about everything.And then what did you say? We asked her.
"I didn't say anything. He had answered his own question."
Days passed so quickly. We gave our annual exam waiting for the results. Some girls had started bridegroom hunting. We were now standing at the crossroads of our life, we were about to take most important decisions of life, life partner, career. The carefree college life was about to finish. Neha's parents too had found a suitable bridegroom for her. And then we recieved her marriage invitation, so did Prakash sir.

Results came. We had passed with flying colours. Neha had scored the highest marks in university. But she was crying, crying loudly. 

"Did he do something to you?"
We will teach him a lesson, Lets call our Amravati friends.
What happened tell us. Did he break your marriage?????"
She was still crying and then she said that she wanted to meet him. Boys knew where he stayed as a paying guest. We went together to his place. Fortunately we found him. He was about to leave with his bags. He was not surprised to see us standing at the door. 

"So congratulations all of you on completing post graduation. Neha what are you doing here you'r supposed to get married in a few days, right?" He said in a casual way.
"And where are you going with your bags packed, sir?"
"I have left this job. I am going back to my hometown." he said avoiding her eye.

                  She had tears in her eyes. But she finally spoke, being her last chance to speak.

" And what about me? You loved me unconditionally. Did you ever ask me about my feelings? I really love you a lot and I want you in my life. Whenever my parents found a groom for me, I always unknowingly compared him with you. Nobody had qualities like you. And my fiance? He doesn't even care about me. He looks upon me as a woman. Not a human being. You cannot end everything like this. I need you, sir"

We all became silent. It was an intense moment. He answered,

"I knew. That is why I am leaving. We cannot be so selfish Neha. Think about yourself practically. You are young and talented. We are in love but I am not the right person for you. Don't get carried away in emotions. Think carefully. Your fiance is the right guy for you. Give him some time, he will understand you. He is your true soulmate."

"You are right, Sir." She wiped her tears.
 So did we.

Home remedies.

Remember that concoction your grandma gave you for your cough? With simple ingredients from your kitchen there is remedy for every ailment.

Colds,Coughs and nasal congestion

• Make one cup of black tea instead of sugar, add one tablespoon of honey,juice of ginger roots, and half a lemon.Both ginger and honey have excellent antioxidant properties. Lemon juice is rich in vitamin C which helps in fighting with the cold and boosts the immune system.
• Honey mixed with crushed tulsi leaves is another effective remedy for coughs and common cold. Tulsi's beneficial compounds,phytochemicals have antioxidant, antiviral,antibacterial and immunity enhancing properties.
• Amla is rich in vitamin C. The juice of one amla everyday helps to build strong immunity against infections. Hence amla is also the main ingredient of chyawanprash.
• Turmeric too helps to relive symptoms of common cold. Add a teaspoon of turmeric powder to one cup of milk and boil for a few minutes. Drink this hot brew twice daily.
• To get rid of nasal congestion steam inhalation is a good way. Steam thins the mucous and helps to get the stuff out of the respiratory system. Adding a few drops of vicks vaporub to the water is also helpful.

Skin Care and Acne

• Our skin is often clogged with dust, pollution and make up, so proper care is required for a healthy skin.Wash your face with lukewarm water to open the pores and allow cleansing.After that splash some cold water to close the pores.
• For a beautiful and nourished skin,Milk and curd can be applied. Lactic acid present in milk has anti ageing properties that aids the shedding of dead skin cells and helps hydrate the skin for a rejuvenated look. A cold milk compress also helps cool the skin immediately after any sunburn.(milk products are however not useful for oily or acne prone skin)Substitute milk with freshly ground sandalwood paste or multani mitti(Fuller's earth),which is better suited for oily skin.
• Other good natural cleansing agents include besan(gram flour) and oatmeal.Make a smooth paste of either in water, gently apply on your skin and wash after 20 minutes.
• Cucumber juice is effective for dark circles around the eyes. Papaya, strawberry and grape pulp for toning your skin.
• For problems like smelly feet used teabags can be added to boiling water to prepare a decoction. Cool and soak your feet in it and repeat for seven- ten days.

Minor Sprains and aches

• If you suddenly find yourself stranded after a joint injury, muscle contusion or sprain try the R.I.C.E(Rest, Ice, Compression,Elevation) method of treatment. Ice packs and compression(by tying a tight bandage around the area) reduces swelling by decreasing blood flow to the injured area.An Ice pack is useful in first 24 to 48 hrs of an injury. Hot fomentation is also advised after this treatment. Apply hot water bag or towel dipped in warm water to the affected area.
• May it be long hours at the computer or a minor injury, back pain can make your life terrible. An effective home remedy can be made heating pure ghee with crushed garlic. Cool the mixture to room temperature and apply on the affected area. Garlic's anti-inflamatory property stimulates blood circulation and helps reduce pain.

Nausea and Acidity 

• Feeling queasy or burning sensation in your throat? Drinking a glass of lukewarm water to which a piece of jaggery is added curbs heartburn.
• A glass of cabbage/ green gourd juice is helpful in acidity due to their alkaline properties.
• In case of nausea chew ginger.

Oral Care

• In case of bleeding gums mix a pinch of common salt and baking soda and massage your gums with it.
• For bad breath, chewing some saunf(fennel seeds) after a meal is a good option. You can also chew some mint leaves instead.

Diabetes and cholesterol care

• A high fibre diet one that includes sprouts, pulp of fruits like orange, sweet lime, and raw salads are essential for lowering blood sugar level and cholesterol level.
• Fenugreek seeds also help check blood sugar level. Soak 10 gms of fenugreek seeds and have them in morning on an empty stomach.
• Chewing a clove of garlic first thing in the morning helps control cholesterol level.

A little advice

All these tips have been very useful to me and my family. However, home remedies have their own limits. They cannot tackle a major infection and cannot replace a visit to the clinic. Even if its just a runny nose and it still persists after trying a home remedy, its sure sign that you have to see the doctor.

Save Your Laptop

You love your laptop, but do you tend to it well enough?? Here's how to keep it shipshape and long lasting

• Place laptops away from liquids and moisture. For most of the laptops, a single spill can be disastrous. Do not expose it to direct sunlight.
• Use external mouse whenever possible. Touchpads generally worn out fast.
• Often, when you close your laptop, the keys touch the screen slightly, leaving permanent marks on the screen over time. Avoid that by placing a piece of cloth over keyboard before closing.
• Use a laptop cooler, if your room is not air conditioned. The cooler is a stand sometimes with fans to prevent the laptop from overheating.
• It is essential to have a good laptop bag to prevent your laptop from rough handling and bad weather. The bag must be rough and tough and not a fancy one.
• Unlike desktops, which can run for weeks without being shutdown, its best to shutdown your laptop or keep it in sleep mode when not in use.
• Wipe the screen occasionally using a soft cloth. Use a cotton bud to clean dust which may have gathered between the keys.
• Reduce battery discharge by adjusting settings for optimal power and screen brightness. Also it helps to use only one or two windows at a time unplug USB devices that are not needed, switch off bluetooth and keep speaker volume down.

Have fun with your lappy !!

Warcraft 3 - Reign of chaos

Just played and completed a game called warcraft 3- reign of chaos (PC version) which I downloaded from a torrent (I know its illegal but I cant afford to buy the game hehe) The game was absolutely amazing !

Warcraft 3 is a high fantasy real time strategy PC game.

The graphics are breathtaking !! 

The concept of the game is that there are four races: Humans,Orcs,Undeads and night elves.These four races are the enemies of each other. The game story has various campaigns in which you play the role of each of them. This game is different in many ways.You can construct buildings, create your troops to fight with your enemy,there are heroes in your group. Every group needs resources that is gold and timber. Gold can be extracted from gold mines which are to be won by killing beasts surrounding them.

I give 10/10 to warcraft 3

 If your playing the game I have some really useful cheats just ask in the comments ;) 

Wisdom of a raving lunatic..

A Raven watches all 

For each angel a Raven, 

For each man an angel, 

For each man a Raven! 

An evening walk. 

I the garden lies forbidden fruit, 

Behind pastures where ghouls lightly sleep. 

Through valleys the labrynth turns,, 

Twisting through ages in time, forbidding wanton feet 

From wandering the timeless retreat. 

Towers as surreal as dreams proudly proclaim 

Defiant truths to the thin air of terrifying heights, 

Carrying contemplating minds upward 

To the great and fiery infinities of imagination. 

Pastel colored memories welcome us 

To familiar lands, the very terrain of dreams. 

Dreams ripen, dreams rot 

And what remains is our lot? 

The valley of crosses it bears your name 

For everyonce you have died and thence been born again. 

In icy caverns flames burn throwing shadow 

Like soot upon the wall. Your hair 

Like cobwebs, your fleshless face screaming 

" Is this all, is this all we came for?" 

We've seen all the ancient altars, we've seen 

Stars turn their magnificent arcs, Infinities 

At the corners of lifeless eyes blinded 

By these dark roads that promised light 

And we've dreamt the dream that broke 

Into our consciousness like streams of continuity 

Fostering the madness, tempting us toward darker corners. 

I burn these books tonight, these rabid books 

That still amell of promises, still tempt the embers 

To burn brighter, like fallen stars on ashen earth. 

A new God has risen, A new God has fallen, 

Robed like priets we drink of the fountain 

And save our liveries for the sultry evenings 

When logic has fallen apart and we stare 

Like raven with broken wings into the abyss 

Of being. Tortured imagination seeks 

Lost in a dream of its own making. 

Seeking the semblances amidst those brocades 

Of truth lined up at shop windows. 

Is it too much to yearn, too much to turn around

Life changes its ways.

I cannot believe I am back.I AM BACK !!

I really cannot think about anything to write I have been trying to think of something to do and then I realize that OMG all I wanted to in my life was to write and then I remembered that I have a blog in which I used to write everything I felt.
I am lost. I feel sick( I actually am) and I am losing confidence day by day. I feel lonely. How fast life changes its ways I cannot seem to keep a track with it. I wasted entire one year of my life for achieving my ambition yet I am nowhere, people are way ahead of me. I am losing myself.I feel so sad. I am waiting for 20th of July to see what my fate is. I know nobody reads my blog anymore but I want to still keep writing. I am now writing for myself as a diary and not begging people to read my blog.

Yet I somehow I believe even after all those drawbacks and mistakes that I will be there, finally winning the race with a confident smile on my face and a victory trophy is waiting for me.

I love myself(lol not the other way round)

I am the best.. 20th july here i come dmer..............